On: 12 Rules for Life.
Episode: N/A
Date: February 2018
Background: Clinical psychologist, professor of psychology, author of “12 Rules for Life“.
Key Subjects:
- Need for goals in life:
- Happiness and impulse gratification are not good goals.
- Happiness is not a default state or helpful pursuit; be ready for plenty of times without it.
- Impulse gratification is not a long-term, sustainable strategy.
- Forming good habits is a more helpful goal.
- Habits that are good for you now as well as over time.
- Good as in good for you, your family and your community.
- Happiness and impulse gratification are not good goals.
- Parenting:
- Establish an individual relationship with the child, so that what they are can develop and maximize.
- Establish simple rules and a partnership among parents.
- Importance of developing social individuals.
- Conversation can bring about a state of flow: when you’re outside your comfort zone, listening.
- Importance of sacrifice:
- Give up something of value today to obtain / build something of greater value in the future.
- Trading with yourself (future you) or others.
- Power of narrative / communication to bring about order (good and bad) from chaos / potential.
- Literature provides outlines of common patterns.
- Stories analyze problems that take you apart and put you back together in a better way.
- Things that work (comedy) and things that don’t work (tragedy).
Key Takeaways:
- Form good habits: that deliver immediate returns and build even greater value long-term (for you, family, community).
- Establish relationship that allow what the other person is to maximize.
- Give up today to build something of greater value in the future.
- Learn from common patterns: take apart, rebuild.
Worth Listening:
8/10