Summary

• Encourage wide focus, curiosity.
• Create conditions for learning.
• Support social learning (exploring).
• Guide shift to developing productive skills and habits (exploiting).
• Provide clear, consistent, mild discipline.
• Allow for plenty of free play.
• Limit activities.
• No quitting on a bad day.
• Be a good example.

Parenting

• Encourage wide focus, curiosity.
  • Curate exploration. (“Prepared”).
    • Curate and select options (“buffet”).
    • Provide choice within.
  • Expose to wide variety of topics to pique interest, curiosity. (“EconTalk — Robert Pondiscio”)
  • Learning begins with curiosity. (“Prepared“)
    • Enable kids to follow their curiosities and interests (they learn more).
    • As they learn more, they get better at learning.
    • Expose (spark interest), explore (do projects) and pursue.
  • Encourage sampling. (“EconTalk — David Epstein“)
    • Help to understand what’s out there and available.
    • Help to get maximum signal about yourself out of activities (what do you like, what are you good at).
  • Figure out what you are interested in doing, what you care about, what you’re good at. (“Prepared”)
    • Discover your strengths and likes.
• Create conditions for learning.
  • Safe, stable and stress-free learning environment (“Brain Rules for Baby“).
    • Praise kids for effort, not outcomes.
    • Learning from mistakes, normalize errors.
  • Motivated parents. (“EconTalk — Robert Pondiscio”)
    • High expectations.
    • Discipline.
  • Beginner mindset.
    • You can always learn something new. (“The Drive with Peter Attia — David Epstein“)
• Support social learning (exploring).
  • Watching (imitation).
    • Learning is primarily a social, relational exercise. (“Brain Rules for Baby“)
    • Kids not only do as you do, they do as you intend to do. (“The Gardener and the Carpenter“)
  • Listening (asking why questions).
    • “Why” questions that require a causal explanation of events that allows for further learning. (“The Gardener and the Carpenter“)
  • Playing (discovery).
    • Develop social skills, experiment and practice mental skills (“The Gardener and the Carpenter“).
  • Doing.
    • Experience failure and realize you can survive it. (“The Fragile Generation“)
    • Develop emotional resilience.
• Guide shift to developing productive skills and habits.
  • Develop mastery by taking what you’ve learned and making it second nature. (“The Gardener and the Carpenter“)
  • Mastery in one domain may lead to mastery in other domains. (“EconTalk — Robert Pondiscio”)
  • Repetition. (“EconTalk — Doug Lemov“)
    • Many “at bats”, practice.
    • Variety: variation of contexts.
  • Writing.
    • Forces you to capture what an idea is. (“EconTalk — Doug Lemov“)
  • Understand that for some things there may be a critical window. (“The Drive with Peter Attia — David Epstein“)
    • At a young age, more time to commit, more time to make mistakes and learn.
  • Matching (“Prepared“).
    • Realistic sense of self (interests, strengths, skills).
    • Realistic sense of options (credible, relevant pathways).
  • List of useful habits: see “Prepared“.
  • Become competent adults. (“The Gardener and the Carpenter“)
    •  Practice and master (social) skills of the culture.
    • Shift from exploring to exploiting.
• Provide clear, consistent, mild discipline.
  • Make your kids decent roommates today. (“Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids“)
  • Set clear and simple rules. “Brain Rules for Baby“)
    • Explain them.
    • Apply them consistently (rewards and punishments).
    • Provide fast feedback.
• Allow for plenty of free play.
  • Kids don’t need as much supervision as parents think they do. (“Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids“)
    • Kids don’t complain about parents not spending enough time with them.
  • Free play helps kids develop and learn social skills. (“The Fragile Generation“)
    • Learn to make friends, overcome fears, solve problems and generally take control.
• Limit activities.
  • If both parents and kids don’t like the activity and there is no long-term benefit, scrap it. (“Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids“
• No quitting on a bad day.
  • If no longer motivated, take a break or switch things up.  (“The Drive with Peter Attia — David Epstein“)
• Be a good example.
  • How to be, not what to do. (“The Drive with Peter Attia — David Epstein“)
    • About being a good example, not having to know everything.